Skip navigation! Story from Health. Last Updated 29 March , Is eternal love and commitment really possible in our modern age or is it an outdated concept with a sell-by date? I got married last summer and, after the honeymoon and inevitable back-to-work comedown, I began to realise that a year-old married woman in my circle of London friends and colleagues is remarkably rare.
It got me thinking about how people perceive monogamy and whether being married today is the least cool thing ever. Is my two-hearts-entwined, love-everlasting view naive? When one of my male friends [27 and single] casually dropped into conversation that he thought the concept of monogamy was outdated in this day and age, I decided to probe further Married Woman: In our society, the number of people who've had affairs is high one in five adults in the UK. Is this behaviour a modern version of a non-monogamous relationship?
Basically, polyamory is all around but socially inadmissible? Single Man: I feel it is a modern version or maybe a cop-out of a monogamous relationship, based on a curiosity which leads to adultery, which I agree is inadmissible but doesn't change the fact that it exists and will continue to exist.
MW: So you don't believe in monogamy? SM: No, my views on monogamy are slightly abstract as I grew up in a single-parent household and all my siblings had different dads so, from the get-go, my understanding of what a relationship is or a marriage is, was slightly skewed.
I've never really had a girlfriend — maybe one real relationship when I was 16 — and I'm 27 now and still don't have any long-term plans in terms of settling. So do I believe in monogamy right now? But maybe as I evolve things will change. MW: Do you think that you can only be emotionally monogamous to one person?
