May 27, This is a rather personal article, where I introduce you to some stereotypical dating rules and my own experiences dating German and foreign guys and girls. Before any dating can happen, of course, the biggest challenge is to meet someone date-worthy, especially as an expat. How to make friends in Germany?
Germans like to date within their social circle. The third most popular way of meeting a same-sex partner is through social clubs and hobbies. I had met my German boyfriends through friends and my German girlfriends via an online dating site. Jen, my wife from Guatemala, and I met through a sports club. It seems like I check all the boxes.
Compared to other nations famous for their dating culture, like Italy and France, Germans are far more rational than emotional. That can be exhausting, but also refreshing, depending on what you are used to and what you are looking for. Here are the 13 most prevailing factors in German dating culture. When you agree with a German on meeting alone, you might consider it a romantic date.
In contrast, the German will consider it as getting to know each other better, without having decided yet, whether there is a common romantic connection. When dating a German, the worst thing you can do is date other people simultaneously. Going out with other people at the same time is pretty much like cheating and conveying that you are not seriously interested.
Dating while being exclusive; however, does not mean that you are in a relationship already. Germans are punctual. Germans are punctual at pretty much everything, dating included. Being late is rude and will end your possible relationship before it even started. Instead, be there five to ten minutes early to make a good impression. Germans are not good at small talk, and when it comes to dating or even worse, flirting, Germans can become awkward quite fast when approached with small talk. Instead, Germans like to get into long detailed conversations.
