Uh oh. You don't have JavaScript turned on. Some parts of this site won't work without it. Better turn it on! Local experts share the latest information and resources on all things mental health. Posted: May 22, by Jeff Guenther.
Hello, my name is Jeff Guenther and I am a Licensed Professional Counselor and today on Mental Help Desk we are going to be talking about how there is no perfect partner. In my practice I come across a lot of clients who are having many short term relationships and seem to be stuck in a constant state of casual dating even though they say the want to find a long term partner to settle down with.
There are many different reasons that can be causing this to happen in their life but the reason I am going to be focusing on today is letting go of finding the perfect partner.
If you can let go of it you might find yourself in a long term relationship. By all means, enjoy it while it lasts but then gracefully move on to the next phase in the relationship.
It feels like you are the center of their universe and you have a special connection that makes it possible to read each other's minds and predict their behavior. Where do you see yourself 5, 10 or 20 years from now? Do you want to be in a long term relationship that has a lot of depth and shared emotional experiences? Then you'll need to hang tough. And that only comes in the next phase of the relationship. It can be fun to scroll through all the people listed on the site just like you might flip through a clothing catalogue.
