Is it okay to be romantically involved with a guy who doesn't share my Christian faith? He asked me out on a date six months ago, and though at the time I didn't think it was a good idea, I went ahead and accepted. Now he's captured my heart and I don't know what to do.
I'm in pretty deep, but unless he makes a commitment to follow Jesus I don't think I can marry him. At the same time, if there's a chance that he may accept Christ, I don't want to break things off and throw away the most wonderful relationship I've ever experienced.
What should I do? We want to begin by commending you on your diligence and zeal for doing what is right in the sight of God. As we see it, your biggest cause for concern has to do with the depth of your emotional attachment to this young man. The choice of a lifelong mate is a matter of profound importance.
But for that very reason we would urge you to proceed with caution. Be humble and listen carefully to the advice of those who know and love you best, and in particular fellow followers of Christ. It most certainly does. This is particularly true where marriage is concerned. If you were standing on a step and your boyfriend on the ground, which of you would find it easier to draw the other to his or her level? The answer is obvious: he would have a much greater chance of pulling you down.
Otherwise, you are likely to wrestle with doubts as to whether he has chosen to follow Christ out of a conviction of his need, or from a desire to please and be with you. The romantic element will only cloud the situation and make it harder for you to guard your own heart Proverbs The question is, which will be worse? Resources If a title is currently unavailable through Focus on the Family, we encourage you to use another retailer.
