Posted December 1, Reviewed by Lybi Ma. As one of the contributors to Psychology Today lacking letters after my name, I am not about to give members of the opposite sex any hard, fast advice using empirical evidence or citing biological studies. In fact, my husband makes fun of me for trying to pair people up, but he also knows it does not deter me. What I am about to say is pure opinion, with a lot of pipe dreams and personal preferences thrown in.
Apologies in advance. Even looks are not as important as personality by the time we reach an older age. An average looking guy can transform into a veritable George Clooney before our eyes when all else about him works. This usually does not ring true in the opposite direction, unfortunately. We don't miraculously become Catherine Zeta Jones because we have a great sense of humor or amazing intellect. Unlike men who hope for younger women to adore them, we tend to prefer men within five years of our own age -- men we can talk to, walk with, and take anywhere.
While there are surely still a few gems out there, what I hear is that many, many older single men:. Phone conversations, texts, and emails can seem promisingβperhaps because both parties hope to meet someone special.
However, the actual meeting is an entirely different ball game. What a man may not think about, however, is that even when he has an attractive woman sitting across from him on a first date, she, too, has had a life.
She may have operated her own business, been an executive, and had had a marriage that brought her joy and children as well as disappointment and heartache. She may have learned more about life than he has or been exposed to worlds he may never have fathomed.
