His mother was the most phenomenal cook. She was patient with my Spanglish and accepted me for the ever-ambitious something Latina I was at the time. His father, although a nice person, was less than enthusiastic about me. It seemed so much easier and perhaps in many respects it probably would have been, but it was just not my time. In the six years that followed, I dated a few different types of men.
And then I met my husband, who I affectionately refer to as the gringocowboy. I grew to love his family like they were people and not gringos and realized that although the worlds we grew up in were vastly different, rural Oklahoma and the suburbs of New York City, in many ways they were also very much the same. As I heard her say that, I wondered if we might have that in common and I looked for ways that my gringocowboy had connected with me. From the very beginning, my gringo husband was so interested in my world.
He wanted to know me and he was interested albeit skeptical of the world I experienced as a Latina. He fell in love with both sides and the middle of that intersection and has always been a sensitive ear listening to my angst.
He is my champion, my encourager and my rock. He posts my content to mostly crickets on his Facebook feed and he is not deterred. He loves for me to cook for him and I do that with love almost every night of the week. That is SO sweet Mariella! Thank you for sharing your story. So happy to hear that you found yours. What a beautiful story. I married the love of my life Sam, he is from Wyoming , a year after I moved to the United States, and even though I had been already engaged once to a Latino back in Peru, I never felt the connection that, after 20 years, I still feel with my husband.
I am what I am because of him; he pushed me to explore other career options, encouraged me not to settle, and I am better because of his constant support. OK that is just adorable. I love reading how much you love her and her culture and her family. Thank you for your honesty and your personal experience. My perspective is a little different as I am the white male and I am very excited to be engaged to marry and start a family with the love of my life, a beautiful, educated, family oriented Latina that is fluent in Spanish and very proud of her culture and her beauty is impossible to put in words.
