Ready for something more than casual? The first rule of dating is vulnerability. One of the first times we show vulnerability in a new relationship is when THE dating intentions conversation comes up. Truth be told, no matter how comfortable you are with someone, sharing your true feelings is scary. But incredibly rewarding when we finally decide to lean into our vulnerable side. By preparation, I mean knowing what you want.
Emphasis on the word YOU. Despite what the other person wants, our personal relationship goals take president. Before officially entering the casual to committed zone, we want to be clear about our dating intentions.
What do we want and need out of the relationship? What does commitment mean to us? And does this person align with those answers? After understanding our dating intentions, there are a few ways to help start the casual to commitment conversation with your new partner.
Choose your reflection tool, journaling, quiet time, or talking to your closest friend. Ask yourself these three questions:. What do I need to feel secure in a committed relationship? Next, remind yourself how lovely you are. Be strong in your sense of self and know your non-negotiables. Despite the results of the conversation, what will make you feel successful in speaking your truth? Write three positive affirmations about yourself. Remember, there is strength in vulnerability.
Your feels are valid. Say that to yourself through the conversation if you need a reminder. Healthy commitment takes time, like it does to get to know someone. But there is clarity in trusting the process. Think about these questions:. Do they share intimate and vulnerable information with me? Do they speak about the future together and introduce me to friends? Are they consistently planning dates and making time to see me?
