The Hitch actress, who shares two daughters, Esmeralda, 6, and Amada, 4, with Ryan Gosling, shared it on Tuesday with a glam Instagram photo. Please slide if you care. And believe me, I deserved [it]. I was a brat. Completely different than hitting someone. So happy to agree to disagree. Want this page to offer that in a loving way.
This didn't come with a manual so when there's something that resonates with me, I pass it on. Lotsa love. Other parents agreed with Mendes. Also most of us were raised in cultures or families where physical discipline is routine and accepted so I get it Spanking, though, is a loss of control on the part of the parent.
As parents [we] are trying to teach our kids how to communicate in a healthy way even when we are really, really upset. We are also helping them build those internal controls so that they do not lash out on others when things do not go their way or they are frustrated, angry or upset. According to Dawn Brown , a psychiatrist in Houston, Texas, spanking is "one of the most widely-debated parenting topics," but it doesn't work in the way parents might hope. Spanking can also cause neurological changes in a child, says Brown, the effects of which can be seen in adulthood.
If nothing else, says Brown, spanking sends mixed messages to children, especially when disciplining them for hitting other children. What makes spanking a particularly tricky topic is its intergenerational component, according to Sheryl Ziegler, a family therapist in Denver, Colo.
Some parents feel spanking is justified, but it actually doesn't prevent children from acting out. According to both experts, parents should check in with themselves when they reach that breaking point. Ziegler suggests that parents give themselves a "time-out" in these heightened moments by taking deep breaths and walking away, while saying, "I am frustrated" to model conflict-resolution skills.
