Most of the time, we enjoyed being together. However, sometimes our discussions would turn into heated and hurtful arguments. He would disregard my point of view, ultimately shut me down and make me feel like the disagreement was my fault. After our most recent argument, I finally decided to end our relationship.
I will admit that some of these arguments were alcohol-fueled, which would bring on an accusatory tone despite my attempts to clarify any statement or question I made. When I think about how I allowed myself to be picked apart and beaten down by this individual, it brings on ambiguous feelings knowing the woman I am and could be.
I also wonder how I allowed his behavior to become acceptable. For the sake of my sanity, I decided to break away. I want to stay strong and not allow fleeting memories of past good times to cloud my decisions about this or any future relationships.
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