For more than 10 years, year-old Harper Valentine has lived a life of luxury most somethings can only dream of. Free lunches, concerts, expensive shoes, and designer clothing. Endless supplies of French champagne, pamper products, sex toys and lingerie. Not to mention the funding of her self-described "gaming addiction", including her PS5, Nintendo Switch and an Ocarina vessel flute, the musical instrument played by the main character of the game Zelda — which, for pop culture fans like Harper, is pretty special.
But it's not a high-flying corporate job providing all the goodies, and she's not a celebrity either. That means, she gets paid — both in money and gifts — to date and have sex with wealthy, usually older men. When we go out they pay for all our food and activities. Another sugar daddy bought me a bunch of G-star RAW clothing because it was the only brand he ever wore. Her favourite gift, though, was the Zelda-coded instrument, the ocarina, she says.
Harper entered the sugar baby world at just 19, and says she didn't give it too much thought. Image: Supplied. But it did take some getting used to. Harper describes her first experience as clunky, and not at all what she was hoping for. But the money, gifts and pretty dates definitely kept me coming back anyway. Finding the right men and being a good sugar baby is definitely an art.
An art Harper has mastered. Meaning almost every Sugar Daddy she dates these days is a positive experience for both of them. They out themselves pretty quickly. The men who actually get to see me are almost all very respectful, kind, genuine people. Aside from the stigma and the experience of being intimate with a much older man, one of the most commonly discussed aspects of the sugar baby lifestyle is safety.
Harper admits there's no real way to guarantee safety, but there are ways to protect yourself. Technically, it doesn't assure my safety, but it does make them easy to hunt down or charge legally if they do the wrong thing. Harper says while there are bad eggs, there's nothing inherently wrong with a man who chooses to be a sugar daddy. It seems like a pretty nice life, right?
