With just a swipe to the right or left, we have access to a wide array of potential partners. While having many options is usually beneficial, it can sometimes lead to a harmful behavior called detached dating. Dating without emotional attachment is essentially spending time with someone without forming a deep connection. Detached dating may appeal to certain individuals who value independence, personal growth, and non-traditional romantic connections.
Some individuals are not conscious of these behaviors, while surprisingly, many individuals are purposefully engaging in them. I happen to be one of them. I am well-informed about the norms of dating in society, so I approach situations with a deliberate intention to keep my emotions at a distance.
I prefer not to form deep connections with others for personal reasons of my own. I continue to struggle with dismissive avoidant personality traits, primarily as a means of self-protection. When I date, I use the opportunity for self-discovery without delving too deeply into emotional connections.
It allows me to explore and understand myself better. I can identify my boundaries, needs, wants, and what I am willing to tolerate. Consequently, I keep my expectations low for both the individual and the situation at hand. One method I use to practice detachment is by not constantly being accessible. I truly have a life and I am consistently occupied⦠however, I prioritize what is important to me, which may not always include making time for a potential romantic partner.
Being overly available can give off a sense of desperation or convey that I have little going on in my life. Consequently, I aim to avoid being seen as an easy option, as this can lead to my time being undervalued rather than appreciated.
