On average, roughly half of the people who proposition me on Grindr on any given day might have a partner or approach me as part of a two-for-one-night couple deal. Everybody seems to want more than one these days, and thanks to Grindr, Tinder, and all the other hook-up apps, the possibilities and opportunities are now endless. According to a U. That swan-song triple play in Bangkok was with a black guy from Philadelphia and a white Australian who had previously been friends without benefits to each other.
Threesomes and even twosomes with them are pretty much dead-end streets for the guest star. The hopeless romantic in me likes to think that any sexual encounter could lead to repeats, or more. So for me, hooking up with one or two partnered guys in an open relationship is as pointless as dating a married man. Another is the psychology behind some open relationships and the hypocrisy that can be built into them. Is it really so bad if you want to see one or both of them again and not just for sex?
According to two good friends of mine who have an open marriage, that is a definite no-no. If open relationships are meant to encourage sexual liberation, why do rigid rules and regulations hang over so many of them like a disapproving finger-wagging schoolmarm?
He might even stay for breakfast. Would nature demand that we eat the same meal three times a day for the rest of our lives? Just be honest with yourself and with your partner about what you want and why you want it.
In other words, own it. When couples in open relationships start using science as an excuse to continue playing the field, I start rolling my eyes.
