My boyfriend and I were having relationship issues until we tried something new: pegging. He wanted to try it, but he was afraid and sometimes said the idea disgusted him.
Then we tried it, and it was better than normal vanilla or even kinky bondage sex. I actually pegged him three times in 24 hours. I see this as sexy and loving. Not just sexually, but in everyday life? If he was worried about walking back his previous comments, or worried you would judge, shame, or dump him over this, that could have been the cause of your conflict, and the pegging was the solution.
His desire to take the kink out of the bedroom and merge it with the day-to-day risks turning her into a kink dispenser. There are a lot of alpha men in FLRs who shine in support roles for the women they trust.
Indeed, they often flout them by relying not on stereotypical behaviors but on what is a natural dynamic for the couple. FLRs are often kink-friendly, but kink is not required. Granted, nobody is obliged to announce their gender identity through clothing or grooming choices, but how is this guy not straight? I disagree.
Part of being a lesbian, being a woman, is also cultural and societal. Living in the world as a woman matters. I have a male physique, but at times I feel more feminine.
