Dear Ann Landers: I am the mother of a year-old professional man who lives across the country from his family. He is not married, does not date, and does not speak of any female companions. My husband and I have come to the conclusion that he is gay. We have never discussed this with him. I believe he is afraid it would not sit well with his father, who is a high-profile military man and an accomplished sportsman. Our son also has been a top achiever in sports as well as in scholastics, and holds a high office in his company.
When we last visited our son, we saw evidence that someone is living with him. There were slacks and jackets in a larger size, and books and music he would never buy. What do you advise, Ann? Your son does not need to know that you are aware of his sexual orientation. Allowing her to stay in a safe place could make a huge difference in her life. I was in the same situation five years ago β pregnant, enrolled in college and scared to death. Neither of us asked for a handout.
When our daughter was born, I missed only one week of school, and was able to make up all the work. We married two years ago, and are in the process of buying our own home. I graduated from college with honors and am now a teacher.
Dear B. You already know. How wise they were to keep their hearts and their home open to you in your time of trouble. The rewards were great, and the dividends will last a lifetime.
Everybody won. Dear Ann Landers: I have been dating a lovely woman for several months, but one thing about her bothers me.
