Conversations about sex are happening more freely and frequently than they once did. But even as we become more comfortable discussing certain topics, there are others that still make some people a little bashful. Below, sex experts reveal seven common questions and their answers. First, a little bit of background: squirting occurs when fluid is expelled through the urethra — the same tube that carries urine from the bladder to the outside of the body — during sexual arousal or orgasm.
While the two terms are often used interchangeably, some experts believe squirting and female ejaculation are distinct processes. Because research on female pleasure is lacking, this is still being debated.
Female ejaculate tends to be less fluid and thicker. The caveat, however, is if your masturbation habits have begun to interfere with your day-to-day life: your relationships, your job or other responsibilities. A common masturbation question that sex educator Eva Bloom gets from people with vaginas: Can using my favorite sex toy cause a loss of sensitivity that will make it impossible to orgasm again?
Good news: The answer is no. Any clitoral numbness you might feel after a session with your vibrator is temporary. So let those good vibes roll. People have a tendency to read into their fantasies and judge themselves for what turns them on. Some may be interested in safely exploring taboo desires or activities with a consenting partner. But for most people, fantasies are just, well, fantasies, said clinical sexologist and sexuality educator Lawrence Siegel.
Well, a lot of things, actually. And steer clear of sex toys or other household objects that are not intended for anal use — lest you make a visit to the emergency room. This is a question Milstein often gets from straight men after a female partner fingers them anally and they discover they like the sensation. Because the male G-spot is right by the prostate gland, and the easiest way to stimulate the prostate gland is by inserting something into the anus.
