Posted June 7, Reviewed by Lybi Ma. A 21st-century sexual revolution may be in the making with men and women enjoying oral sex as a mainstream sexual activity. This is significant because oral sex provides a greater orgasmic opportunity for them. The s sexual revolution made women having sex before marriage acceptable. But, it did not bring women an equally pleasurable sexual experience. One survey found that 64 percent of women and 91 percent of men said they had had an orgasm at their most recent sexual encounter.
This gap is larger in casual sex than relationship sex. It looks like 21st-century sex will be about variability in what people enjoy and how they achieve orgasm. Partners will want to learn how to negotiate oral sex to achieve sexual satisfaction. How can we get better at negotiating sex, particularly oral sex? Men and women who have performed oral sex on their partners, often fall into the trap, consciously or not, of feeling they are owed.
It is not surprising to learn that men receive fellatio oral sex on a man more than women receive cunnilingus oral sex for women. Both men and women have internalized the script that sex ends with the male orgasm.
Of course, we all desire sex, and engaging in sexual activities is fundamental to being human. But how we carry out our sexual desires is through our sexual preferences what, when, where, how, how frequently, and with whom. We simply cannot elevate our personal preferences to demands without leading to conflict in the relationship. Who teaches us about oral sex? Our parents? Sex ed classes? Resistance to teaching sex ed in schools leaves young people with old ideas and attitudes about sex in general, and oral sex in particular.
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Unfortunately, a lot of us learn from porn where sex is something done to women by and for men. Some women may not be tuned into their bodies, which can result in less than satisfactory sexual outcomes. Women who masturbate more often than other women will be more in tune with their bodiesβmore aware of their sexual pleasure. The same is true for men who have been less inhibited and less sanctioned about masturbation. Masturbation is a sure way to discover what is sexually pleasurable to you.
