Welcome to Doing It , a column where sex educator Varuna Srinivasan explores the deep connections between sex and emotions. This month, we hear from a professional dominatrix to learn what her day-to-day life is really like. Given our societal taboos and pearl-clutching toward all things kink , depictions of dominatrixes are still relatively rare in media. Even rarer still are accurate portrayals of this — highly skilled and sought-after yet nevertheless stigmatized — profession.
But what does a real-life dominatrix's job actually entail? Eva Oh is a full-time dominatrix with a thriving practice in London. In addition to seeing clients in her home, which is also a play space, she works on TV projects, mentoring others and teaching people how to be submissive.
While it was meant to be a joke, she started seriously looking into it. Thankfully, Google's "safe search" was off. A dungeon based in Australia was looking for people to train. One phone call, three questions and a reading list later, and Oh has never looked back. Oh has a voice that is soft yet commanding — the kind that holds more than enough power to effortlessly take control of the room.
One might say it is similar to that of a prime minister, an enigmatic leader, or, most appropriately, a professional dominatrix. As we chatted on the phone, I found myself hanging onto her every word. I immediately understood her allure and popularity, and why she has more than , Instagram followers ready and willing to do her bidding.
Oh generously shared details about her fascinating journey and experiences with me for this column. Eva Oh: A day in life so much more different now than it did back then.
